White Ring Neck Dove in bad situation--needs home

[Ingy]

I'm in a bad place concerning my ringneck, Emily. I've relocated from Northern California to Berkeley, California, and had to leave my wonderful dove behind. She is living with my father now at his place and he is not giving her the treatment she needs.

I will be going up to get Emily on the 30th of this month (December) to bring her down to the SF Bay Area. This is were it gets really hard for me to talk about it. I've moved in with my girlfriend, and we have a very small apartment and 2 cats, of which I feel severely unsafe keeping any small animal around (playful, excited cats they are!)


I've also come out of the closet to my father, and he does "not" want to have my belongings in his house anymore--and that included Emily. I've posted some ads and photos all over hoping to find her a house immediately after the 30th. I've cried so many tears over this. The Shelters have been no help whatsoever. One turned me to MickaBoo (http://www.mickaboo.com), where I found MickaCoo, and they turned me here--thank GOD! I think I've finally found someplace useful.

Can any of you help me find a place that will help me home her? Can any of you please help me find a home for Emily? I will re-post the ad I have been putting up on the bottom of this post. I feel awful...I feel like an inadequate bird-mommy! I don't want to let Emily down. I know there is someone out there who will love her as much as I do....

[Ingy]

Emily is a 4 year old, white female ring-neck dove. She is a very lively, happy bird who aims to please and loves everyone she meets. She gets along very well with women and men alike, but she does seem to bond more with a woman. She has not had any interaction with any children.

Due to relocation, I will be unable to care for her any more. She will be available to adopt after the Holidays (late December, very early January.) She must have a home soon; please consider this little wonderful bird into your home.

She is a good girl who always seeks to please her owners; however, she is very shy when first meeting people, as any animal would be. Do not be surprised if she does not seem to like you at first; she has a huge heart and is a soothing, positive pet who adores attention. She always wants to make friends with her family. She would do best with a small family or a 1 person house hold with her new parent(s) over the age of 16.

Emily is not able to live with any cats at all, and she has never lived with any other doves/birds, but I believe she could learn to share her life with other like-birds with some positive interaction with such.

Please keep in mind that Emily also has CRS (Chronic Reproductive Syndrome.) Essentially, this means that she bonds very, very hard to certain people and will try to show her devotion through obsessive egg laying. I am unsure if she will continue this behavior with a new owner. She requires a calcium-rich diet because she lays 2 eggs twice every month. To help her not think in a mate-owner mindset, please keep in mind not to pet Emily in a way that she may find sexual. One should never pet a bird with CRS on the bottom or the lower back, nor under the wings, as it stimulates the nesting process and egg laying. She has no history of being egg-bound.

Thank you for considering my little Emily. She is a wonderful, quiet bird who means the world to me. I would like her to have the best home ever; I would keep her if it were possible, but it is not. I would be glad to take any questions or concerns about her at the e-mail inglwz@hotmail.com.


For the forum, I have created an album with photos of Emily; it can be seen here: http://www.pigeons.biz/forums/album.php?albumid=1019

[Mindy]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I hope someone can help you with emily. I hope your dad comes around also. Very sad when parents can't love there children unconditionally.

I think you need to get emily from your dads asap. Even if you have to keep her in your apartment with the cats. I have 12 cats and I'm able to have all of my birds inside. It does take some extra effort but its worth it. Just got done looking at the pictures, she is precious. min

[doveone52]

Agree with Mindy on all counts. Btw, my daughter is also gay and it does take some rethinking on the part of the parents but I am way past that. I don't think I can help w/ Emily. Where in NC is your Dad located? Anywhere near Rocky Mount? Also, you can pm me if you ever need to talk. My heart and prayers go out to you.

[spirit wings]

oh If only I was closer, I would take her in minuet..I have three white RN hens I love.. I know someone will want Emily it just may take some time. Im going to assume shipping is out of the question...it is getting a bit cold for that anyway...but if it was someone not too far from you with the same temps it could be an option if no one is found closer. Good luck with finding that perfect home for her I know you will...and Good for you for being true to yourself.

[Elizabethy]

Hi, Katie-

Thank you so much for advocating for Emily here at Pigeon Talk! I've copied and distributed your post about her. Please keep us updated on how things are going.

All best,

[maryjane]

Hi Katie, don't worry, we will find a wonderful, loving home here for your dear Emily. I'm also sorry that your dad is unable to understand you, or unable to try, or whatever the case may be. So many parents miss out on so much of their children's lives due to lack of acceptance and their own, often archaic, beliefs. My dearest friend in the world is gay and his father "disowned" him years ago. My thought is, what a huge loss for his father. But I know it must still be very painful after having the guts to come out and then be shot down by a loved one. I hope his views change and you are able to have a relationship in the future!! There are, it seems, more of us in Northern California on the forum than anywhere else, so finding Emily a place should be a piece of cake. I just placed my own little male RN, Ivan, with one of our favorite members, so I understand how hard it is to give up your Emily. But you are doing what's best for her it sounds like. Keep us posted and keep checking back.

[Ingy]

Holy cow--wow...First of all, thank you so much to all of you for showing me that there are such wonderful, wonderful people here who are so beautiful and caring! Not just about my Emily, but to my personal situation....I feel so ashamed of myself for putting her into this awful situation, but when I see your positive thoughts and helpful, caring advice--gosh, that really hit home. Thank you

Elizabeth, I got the e-mail, thank you! Holy cow! I opened my inbox today after an afternoon of doctor's appointments--that's enough to bring anyone down for a while! And I just cried and cried such happy tears when I saw the reply e-mails and letter from pij enthusiasts from all over!

I have replied to quite few, and I am preparing myself for some e-mails back--I hope There was one reply that really struck a chord with me. I'm one for confidentiality, so I won't divulge here, but oh gosh, I think--if all goes well--maybe Emily may have a new mama and friend! Cross your fingers, people--I am so thankful, there just isn't any words or phrases that can adequately show you all how much you all rock!

I'll keep you all informed as I go along into this process. Have a great weekend, everyone. I have a good feeling!

[pigeonmama]

Personally, I wish I could adopt Emily, right along with you and your significant other, then you and Emily could continue to stay together.
Daryl

[doveone52]

You rock, Pigeon Mama!

[maryjane]

Watch out, Daryl'll do it!! She'll have you crammed in between BB and a pigeon or two as well as some dogs. Hopefully not the dog that eats everything.

[Ingy]

Good news, people! I believe I have found Emily's home. We are working out the details, and if it works out, I believe Emily is going to be moving in soon with this truly fantastic woman. I never imagined to be embraced so fully by anyone like this...Thank you so much to my new friends and to Emily's new potential Mama.

I have nothing but good feelings....I am so loved and so honored. Thank you.....

[Mindy]

That is great news, please let us know when it all takes place and hopefully it all goes smoothly. min

[Big T]

Great news, glad to hear it. Give Dad time, he will come around, a daughter that cares about her bird as much as you do learned that from a caring family. I wish you and Emily the very best.

God Best,
Tony

[Jay3]

Originally Posted by Big T

Great news, glad to hear it. Give Dad time, he will come around, a daughter that cares about her bird as much as you do learned that from a caring family. I wish you and Emily the very best.

God Best,
Tony

Ya know, that's a very good point.