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20th September 2007, 04:11 AM
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She gets extremely jealous at the start of a new interest. I have seen this in the past. I had suspected this but she wasn't saying this. She was displacing it to the birds. She still can't get her head around my "why" but she says that if I would spend 10% of the attention that I spend on my hobbies, she would be happy. I just need to keep a better balance........ All will be okay.....just have to step back and slow down a little. I haven't slept in two weeks thinking and reading and learning. Yes I can get very obsessed.  Barry 
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20th September 2007, 04:19 AM
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Hi Barry,
Give it some time and have patience, and make sure you spend quality time with her too. Be respectful of her needs and she should be involved in all decisions made that effect her too. My husband is just as nuts about my birds now, as I am. He didn't have a clue as to what the heck I was doing in the beginning.
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20th September 2007, 07:25 AM
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From time to time my husband would get the same way over me & my birds. I am similarly obsessed when I'm learning about something new, and at first he was pretty jealous. Every time I mentioned the thought of getting more birds he would get angry. (I started with just one little dove and now I have 8 birds altogether - still planning to get a few more, as my new aviary has quite a bit of room.) We had lots of discussions - some of them heated. But he has calmed down a lot now. I think it is because he knows the birds are vital to my happiness and that is not going to change. I am also very careful to keep the aviary clean and I keep the birds from messing up the house when they do come indoors. One of the fears that he voiced was that we'd end up with a "filthy house full of animals" like the lady who lived down the street from him as a boy who had over 100 indoor cats. (believe me that's the last thing i want - yuk) The other side of it is that he has his own hobbies that have historically absorbed quite a bit of time that I've wished he was spending with me. So in my case, reminding him of that helped a little too. Anyway - I'm sure things will work out. And hopefully your wife will end up enjoying pigeons as much as you do!
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20th September 2007, 07:40 AM
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The Looney Bin Has More Than One Nut!Quote:
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17th November 2007, 05:10 PM
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 If my family doesn't find me in the house or the back yard, they know I am most likely in the pigeon coop.Good luck to you. It will balance out given time. My last baby grandson grew up around pigeon(s) and he is 6 now...all is good and he is excelling in grade K and swim class! I just recently introduced my 5 month old grandson Drakie to my pigeons, and he is fascinated with them. Oh, and my 10 year old grandson Alex (aka Coolpigeon here) is my assistant pigeonkeeper too!
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17th November 2007, 05:41 PM
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If you can get her to spend time with the little squeakers, pet them...feed them...hold them...I'm sure she'll love them in no time! They are adorable, so I don't see why not!
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20th November 2007, 06:06 AM
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My girl friend calls me a bird nerd. The way I see it my kids are gonna love the birds when they get older and my 2 year old already loves to watch them and just keep saying BIRD!
Anyways she is just cranky that my new loft is going to take up a quarter of our new backyard and that all my time is not focused on her. As for your wife, the disease thing has got to be one of the worst excuses not to like pigeons. Ask her how many people she knows of that have ever gotten sick from a pigeon. You have a better chance of getting rabbies from a stray cat then anything from a pigeon.
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20th November 2007, 07:12 AM
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Barry,
Hopefully, slowly but surely, your wife will recognize the true beauty of pigeons. They're wondrous birds. I consider myself extremely lucky, as Chuck loves the birds as much as I do & supports me in anything that needs to be done. My Mother, who, sadly, I lost last year on Nw Year's Day, always asked me how the 'birdies' were doing when I would call her, at least every weekend. I thought it would be fun to send her one of my 'Feathers & Fur' calendars last year for Christmas. She LOVED it. I find comfort in thinking she took all those images with her. Cindy
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20th November 2007, 10:37 PM
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I'm sure things will work out, Barry, given some time, patience and communication...
I would also be willing to bet that one of these days, the "right" pigeon will come along and your wife will be "hooked!" I have heard - many times - people say, I don't like - cats, dogs, pigeons, etc. - until that FATEFUL day when everything changes due to ONE special cat, dog, pigeon, etc... Shi & Squeaks (who completely changed MY life!)
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