Like I said in another thread, be patient, approach from a low, nonthreatening angle when you offer her some seeds on your hand - my bird loves raw sunflower seeds. If you talk to her try to use a soft, high-pitched voice. Don't be discouraged. If she tries to bite or slap you, it's supposed to be a sign that she considers you her equal. That is encouraging. Otherwise she would run/fly away. Be patient and kind.